Reclaiming Your Authentic Self
A Developmental Guide that Takes You from Your Codependent Persona to Your Authentic Self
A free gift to help you stop surviving and start becoming who you were meant to be
For a limited time, you can download the Reclaiming Your Authentic Self Guide as a free ebook. In February 2026 it will be available for sale, but right now you can receive the full guide at no cost and share it with others who need it.
The Reclaiming Your Authentic Self Guide is for high-functioning, emotionally aware adults who are tired of overgiving, overworking, people-pleasing, and still feeling small inside. It is for anyone who has read about codependency or Imposter Syndrome and thought, “That is me,” but still feel stuck in old patterns and don't know how to get unstuck.
It reframes codependency as a developmental delay, not a flaw or a diagnosis, and shows how the brain gets stuck in repetitive survival behaviors that were created in childhood.
This Ebook Will Help You Understand
What codependency actually is: Codependency is presented as a psychological and physiological state where development was interrupted, not as an illness or identity.
The duality of your Codependent Persona and your Authentic Self: You will explore the two tracks of development: the part of you that adapted to stay safe and connected and the part that was meant to grow into a confident, self-directed adult.
How nature and nurture shaped your survival role: You will see how your emotional environment in childhood combined with your inborn personality, brain organization, and Striving Style to create a predictable Codependent Persona that once kept you safe but now keeps you stuck.
A way to begin again developmentally: The guide offers simple, grounded steps to start strengthening the psychological muscles of your Authentic Self so it can finally become stronger than your old survival strategies.
What Makes This Guide Important for Your Development
Most material on codependency focuses on behavior and coping skills.
This Guide doesn't offer a quick fix. It is a starting place for becoming who you are meant to be. The Guide:
- Treats codependency as unfinished development, not a fixed identity
- Uses neuropsychology, attachment theory, and Jungian (MBTI) type to explain why your patterns are so persistent
- Links your Codependent Persona to your Striving Style and dominant brain function, so your patterns make sense instead of feeling random
- Gives you developmental goals, not just insight, so you have a path forward, not just awareness
How to Use the Reclaiming Your Authentic Self Guide
You can move through the Guide in three simple steps:
- Read the introduction and core concepts to understand the difference between your Codependent Persona and your Authentic Self and how it occurred.
- Complete the Striving Styles Self-Assessment to identify your likely Predominant Striving Style (MBTI Type) and function.
- Explore the Codependent Personas and developmental goals that fit you best, and choose one or two practices to begin strengthening your Authentic Self.
You are encouraged to take your time, reflect, and return to sections as your awareness grows.