Who Are You Meant to Be?
A Groundbreaking Step-by-Step Process for Discovering and Fulfilling Your True Potential
This book blends new brain science with a century-old personality system to show you why most people live in survival using behaviors, thinking patterns, and beliefs that keep them there. It introduces the Striving Styles Personality System and shows people how to become who they are meant to be.
What This Book Explores
Who Are You Meant to Be? introduces readers to the Striving Styles® Personality System (SSPS®), a developmental approach that connects personality, psychological needs, emotions, brain functioning, and behavior. Through the eight Striving Styles, you will discover the predominant need that drives your natural style and begin to understand how it shapes your relationships, work, choices, and emotional life.
The book also explores why people can adapt away from their authentic self in order to feel safe, accepted, or in control. It explains the difference between living from the Self-Protective System, where fear and old emotional habits influence behavior, and the Self-Actualizing System, where you can use your strengths more consciously and make choices that support your growth and fulfillment.
By understanding how unmet needs and automatic patterns keep you repeating behaviors that limit your potential, you can begin to create meaningful change. Using your Striving Style Squad and the book’s practical roadmap, you will learn how to move beyond survival mode, strengthen the capacities that support development, and build a life that is more aligned with who you are meant to be.
Ever wish you came with a user manual?
Who are you meant to be? sets you on the path to understanding your unique abilities, drivers of behavior and path to your potential.
Your Striving Style determines your approach to bonding and relating to others. It also determines the amount of energy you will put into your relationships; your tolerance for intimacy; how much time you are able to be with others; and how much time you need alone.
We all want to know how we can enhance our relationships and develop loving relationships with others and ourselves. Although our intention is to do this, too often we create relationships more like the ones we had with our mother or father, rather than what we actually want to create. We don’t realize that our brains have created patterns of relating during our formative years that now keep us stuck in dysfunctional relationships.
Who It Helps
This book is for anyone who wants a deeper understanding of themselves and a more fulfilling way to live.
Who Are You Meant to Be? is for readers who have explored self-help books or personality assessments but still want to understand the deeper emotional needs, natural strengths, and fears that shape their behavior. It offers a way to move beyond simply knowing more about yourself and begin making more conscious choices about your career, relationships, confidence, and personal growth.
Whether you are struggling in a relationship, questioning your career direction, trying to understand your emotions, or simply longing to feel more like yourself, this book provides a practical framework for building self-awareness. It helps you understand what has been holding you back, recognize the strengths you were born with, and begin creating a life that feels more authentic, balanced, and fulfilling.
Recognize your self-protective behavior
Identify your Striving Style and predominant need
Make conscious choices about career, relationships, leadership, work environment, etc.
Strengthen authentic capacities
Discover What Drives You and the People Around You
The Striving Styles Personality Assessment helps you understand the psychological needs that drive your behaviour, shape your relationships, influence your career choices, and affect how you lead and work with others.
In your relationships, the Striving Styles gives couples a shared language for understanding each other’s needs, reactions, and ways of connecting. This greater awareness can help minimize unnecessary conflict, reduce misunderstandings, and build more satisfying relationships.
In your career, it helps you determine whether your role provides enough of the need satisfiers that allow you to stay engaged, motivated, and fulfilled. It can also support more informed career decisions and help you understand why certain work environments bring out your best while others leave you frustrated or depleted.
In organizations, the Striving Styles can be used in coaching, leadership development, team effectiveness, and employee development. It helps leaders understand how they naturally operate, what their employees need to perform well, and how to build stronger, more productive working relationships.
take the next steps
1. Read the Book
Begin with Who Are You Meant to Be? to understand the Striving Styles framework and discover the patterns shaping how you think, feel, relate, and make choices.
2. Take the Assessment
Complete the Striving Styles Personality System® Assessment at whoareyoumeanttobe.com to receive a more comprehensive understanding of your Striving Style and the needs and behaviours associated with it.
3. Book an Interpretation Session
Once you’ve completed the assessment, book an interpretation session with Anne. Together, you’ll explore your results, identify the patterns that may be holding you back, and clarify the choices and actions that will help you thrive in your personal life, relationships, or career.
Know Yourself. Understand Your Patterns. Begin Living with Greater Purpose.
Your Striving Style offers more than a personality description. It gives you a practical path for recognizing what you need, changing self-protective behaviours, and making choices that support the person you are meant to become.