๐๐ก๐๐ญ ๐ข๐ ๐ฌ๐จ๐ฆ๐ ๐จ๐ ๐ญ๐ก๐ ๐ซ๐ฎ๐ฅ๐๐ฌ ๐ ๐ฎ๐ข๐๐ข๐ง๐ ๐ฒ๐จ๐ฎ๐ซ ๐ซ๐๐ฅ๐๐ญ๐ข๐จ๐ง๐ฌ๐ก๐ข๐ฉ๐ฌ, ๐๐๐ซ๐๐๐ซ, ๐๐ง๐ ๐๐ก๐จ๐ข๐๐๐ฌ ๐๐ซ๐๐งโ๐ญ ๐ซ๐๐๐ฅ๐ฅ๐ฒ ๐ฒ๐จ๐ฎ๐ซ๐ฌ ๐๐ญ ๐๐ฅ๐ฅ?
I joined Kelly Schuknecht on Beyond the Bestseller for a fascinating conversation about the unconscious โrelationship rulesโ we develop in childhood and continue to live by as adults, often without realizing how much they are shaping our lives.
We learn early what we need to do to belong, stay safe, gain approval, avoid rejection, or feel valued. Those adaptations may have helped us growing up, but as adults they can become invisible rules that influence how much we give, what we tolerate, whether we speak up, how we handle conflict, and even whether we allow ourselves to take risks and pursue what we really want.
Kelly and I talk about what happens when those old rules follow us into our relationships and professional lives, and why lasting change requires more than simply trying to โfixโ ourselves.
๐๐ง ๐ญ๐ก๐ข๐ฌ ๐๐จ๐ง๐ฏ๐๐ซ๐ฌ๐๐ญ๐ข๐จ๐ง, ๐ฐ๐ ๐๐ฑ๐ฉ๐ฅ๐จ๐ซ๐:
- How childhood adaptations become unconscious adult relationship rules
- Why fear of rejection can keep us from expressing our authentic selves
- The connection between self-esteem and emotional independence
- Why intelligent, capable adults can still feel afraid of disappointing others or โgetting in troubleโ
- How these patterns can affect entrepreneurs, authors, and creators
- What it takes to move beyond old adaptations and develop the capacities of the authentic self
A special thank you to Kelly Schuknecht for inviting me back to ๐๐๐ฒ๐จ๐ง๐ ๐ญ๐ก๐ ๐๐๐ฌ๐ญ๐ฌ๐๐ฅ๐ฅ๐๐ซ and creating such a thoughtful conversation. Kellyโs work helps authors move beyond simply publishing a book to building the visibility, authority, and platform needed to reach the people their work is meant to serve.
๐๐ซ๐ ๐๐จ๐ฎ๐ซ ๐๐๐ฅ๐๐ญ๐ข๐จ๐ง๐ฌ๐ก๐ข๐ฉ ๐๐ฎ๐ฅ๐๐ฌ ๐๐ฎ๐ข๐ง๐ข๐ง๐ ๐๐จ๐ฎ๐ซ ๐๐๐ฉ๐ฉ๐ข๐ง๐๐ฌ๐ฌ?
If this conversation has you wondering what unconscious rules may be running your own relationships, my book Are Your Relationship Rules Ruining Your Happiness? takes you much deeper.
It will help you identify the rules you learned to live by, understand why you keep repeating certain relationship patterns, and begin replacing those unconscious adaptations with healthier ways of relating to yourself and others.
๐๐๐ญ๐๐ก ๐ญ๐ก๐ ๐๐ฎ๐ฅ๐ฅ ๐ข๐ง๐ญ๐๐ซ๐ฏ๐ข๐๐ฐ ๐จ๐ง ๐๐จ๐ฎ๐๐ฎ๐๐:
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ShHbY9zUjqQ
๐๐ข๐ฌ๐ญ๐๐ง ๐จ๐ง ๐๐จ๐๐๐๐๐ง:
https://www.podbean.com/eas/pb-ta7jb-1b378d7
And be sure to follow Kelly Schuknecht and Beyond the Bestseller for more conversations about authorship, publishing, marketing, and building a meaningful platform around your work.